"Comparison is the thief of joy." — Theodore Roosevelt
Comparison is a hideous plague that has infected so many of us. Unknowingly we have prescribed to a belief that we are not good enough just as we are. Marketing campaigns tell us on a daily basis that we are not good enough, smart enough, slim enough, fit enough or pretty enough and that because of these deficiencies we are somehow not fully formed human beings. Examples of different people are held up to us as the ‘aspired’ to versions of what we should be striving for and we conform by comparing ourselves to just about anyone. We frequently find that we fall short of these often unobtainable or unreal standards, and are left feeling less than and deflated.
My belief is that we are all spiritual beings with our own unique gifts and that our value is the same.
Comparison and seeing ourselves as either better than or less than, separates us from one another and fuels a negative mindset. As soon as I start comparing, I find that my energy is depleted and I feel less open and light…whenever we start attacking others, we are really attacking ourselves because that negative energy just comes right back around and whatever we’re offering out into the world, we are going to attract back.
So how do we stop?
Initially like most of our unhelpful behaviours we have to become aware of when we’re engaging with them and honest with ourselves about how they are impacting us. The more mindful we become about comparing, the easier it is to direct ourselves toward a more loving mindset, and the better we start to feel. When we start to acknowledge how we are comparing ourselves with others, the more forgiving we become and the more aware we are of how others are also struggling. Recognising the struggles in others helps us to feel less alone. We are all in this together, we all want to be happy and we need to come together and recognise our vulnerabilities because when we do, we are able to forgive ourselves.
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